Subliminal Manipulation for the Masses.

I control people.
Daily.
Hourly.
By the minute.

Quite often these people are complete strangers.

The control is easy.
Embarrassingly so, in many cases.
Fun more often than not when people think they’re ‘above’ everyone else.

I’ve done it for years.
In some spheres I am considered a master at it.

Dangerous, really.
Or it could be.

Am I going to tell you about body language?
Nope, I’ll leave that to the others.

I am however, going to give you some instantly applicable  examples – try them out if you will and have fun!

Experience shows that what I’m about to share with you is all too often the difference between successful interaction and failure. People who have already decided to implement these techniques agree that their success in any one-on-one or group interaction has improved immeasurably.
Some people say to me, right at the beginning “Oh, I couldn’t do that!” when I give them an example until I show them that they already do it! This is one of the things you’re going to love about this – I’m not asking you to do anything new but just to be aware of what you already do.
In just days from now when you’re using these techniques knowingly you’ll look back and marvel at how simple, how obvious some of the most powerful secrets of success are.
Now that’s a fabulous thing, isn’t it?

Ready?

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The techniques I am talking about, I have just used.
You’ve just read them in the paragraph above.

Let me break it down for you.

“Experience shows that”… this phrase implies an air of authority. It implies feedback from other people. It implies consensus – crucial in matters of influencing.

“People who have already decided to”…. this backs up the first implied authority. Furthermore the word “agree” is extremely powerful if right before it, you use the persons name.
Psychologically, it’s like receiving a command.

“Some people say to me”… herein I offer an objection and usually do so in a whinging voice before I return my voice to normal in counter-acting the objection. In essence I offer the objection and address it before the person I’m speaking to can.

“One of the things you’re really going to love about this”…. This one makes me smile because I’ve never been a mind reader but the sentence implies I can read minds. Even more intriguing is that although I can’t, by using these techniques, the outcome indicates I can! Saying ‘one’ also indicates there’s more than one reason you’re going to love whatever it is!

“You can…. because”…. people like to have a reason – a justification. As illogical or unrelated as some of them can be!

“In just days from now when you’re …. you’ll look back”… Using this technique you make the person re-frame their view of the present. What right now, looking at it right now might seem daunting, re-framing it and getting the person to see the advantages from the position of them being in place and applied can be priceless.

…”isn’t it?” is known as a tag question and one that personally keeps me entertained.
Doesn’t it?
Aren’t you / they?
and so the list goes on.
Using this technique alone, I’ve talked people into agreeing with ideas or events so far removed from their sphere of common-sense or comfort that it’s mind-boggling (Don’t panic or go into vigilante mode – I always let them off after I’ve made my point.)

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In the great big wide World out there, there’s plenty more of these techniques.
Simple and breathtakingly effective.
Just imagine…

How to WIN every argument!

Madsen Pirie is an unsung hero.
A genius.

And a writer.
Author indeed of a book called “How to WIN every argument.”

Brilliance on parchment.

If you’re in sales, politics or a relationship (!) this is a must read.

Presented in a light and rather entertaining manner, Madsen Pirie gently leads the reader through the darkness of debate with a 6 cell maglite of insight lighting the way – and I am confident that like me, anyone else reading the book will learn alot about themselves – realising that even us simple folk quite often use certain techniques blindly (but effectively.)

Now, if you’re happy to allow others to have their way, don’t read this book.
But if you’re sick and tired of coming off worse in an argument or debate, regardless of the arena or depth of your knowledge, this is a must read!

Wanna argue about it? 

Compliment Letters to achieve the impossible.

Friends and business colleagues are frequently commenting (and often with some envy) at my ability to achieve the seemingly impossible in so many areas of my life.

If I need tickets to an event or even something as mundane (but often crucial) as a specialised print run, it gets done.

How?

By writing thank you or compliment letters.

A close call last week.
I needed a parcel completed and sent.
Theoretically, there wasn’t the time.
The man in charge of the outfit told me that in a ‘brook no argument’ tone of voice.

My response?
“I really appreciate your honesty – you’re amazing – can I write a letter to your manager? They deserve to know they’ve got such a top-notch guy working for them!”

The chap looked stunned and pleased.
He checked, made a call and came back to the desk.

The parcel – with a few favours from his friends at work – was delivered on time.

This week I got a nice letter from his manager and a gift voucher to spend with the company – for taking time out to appreciate their work!

What’s better – a good idea or a bad idea?

Furniture that’s lighter than air and floats to the ceiling when not in use.
A good idea?

Believe it or not, the last time I checked this idea had been patented if not actually brought to fruition.

Ideas are a matter of taste (ceiling floating furniture not my thing but it might be yours…)

The best idea in the World?

The wheel.

Why?

Simply because it solved a problem and its longevity.

So, back to the question – “What’s better – a good idea or a bad idea?”

The answer is simple.

You can have the best idea in the World but if you don’t apply it, it’s worthless.

So even a bad idea applied is better than a great idea left untried and untested.

Black, Fat, Old, Gay? I don’t like you.

It’s an emotive statement, isn’t it?

Thankfully, it’s not true – or is it?

Perhaps, if the above isn’t true for you, I should re-word it for you.

Perhaps you don’t like White, Skinny, Young, Straight people?

Aren’t you just a little bit racist?

Come-on, you can tell me

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I found just writing the above, difficult.
I found it offensive.

I like to think of myself as open and even minded.

But am I – and are you?
Truly.

If you’re curious, you might want to have a look at the following link – and take 5 minutes out to see if perhaps you’re lying even to yourself.

Click Here  (link opens in a new window.)

Speed learning – it’s SO easy!

This is one of those ghastly pieces of advice I heard years ago and didn’t take it up.
When I eventually did, I kicked myself for having wasted SO much unnecessary time.

In my professional environment, I teach and train people every week on some 14 – 15 different subjects.
Each subject is immensely complicated; time is short and I have to find a way to convey a huge amount of information in a manner that is entertaining and impacting.
It’s quite a task.

To those I teach, I get constant feedback that they are amazed how I can stand up and speak and entertain for up to four hours at a time without referring to notes – despite the fact that I am often not given more than 15 minutes notice about what the days subject will be.

The answer is so simple.
I MindMap my subjects – and when I am advised what the subject for the day is, I refer to my one page MindMap to refresh my (poor) memory and voila! I then teach.

In reference to my poor memory, I have also developed the habit of MindMapping each book I read – and this has improved my recall enormously. It takes only a few minutes and I find that in the process of mind-mapping the book, my understanding of the content vastly increases.
This then leads to speed learning because if it is a text I must remember, my revision time is far shorter.

A little time expended straight away saves HUGE amounts of time later.

I’d also add this comment: -

Don’t under-estimate what MindMapping can be used for.
I have a friend who uses MindMapping with breathtaking effectiveness in her role as a marriage guidance counsellor!

Power to the People. Update on “URGENT – UK Car Drivers”

When I first put up a post here on URGENT – UK Car Drivers, the Govt Petition had some 250,000 signatures.
Over 750,00 were needed before 20th Feb 2007 to cause the Govt to pause.

I also emailed everyone I knew and placed the info on several national Internet Forums – as did many of my contacts – and therein, I guess, contacts of theirs.

The petition now has over 1 million signatures!

Power to the people!
And Mr Blair – don’t underestimate it because it’ll bite you when you least expect it.

The 2007 Wonder Drug

Originally spotted on MindHacks a few days ago and having forwarded the following link to several friends, this drug seems to have captured the imagination…

 Havidol

To be taken for “such symptoms as worrying about life, feeling tense, restless, or fatigued, being concerned about their weight, noticing signs of aging, feeling stress at work, home, or finding activities they used to enjoy, like shopping, challenging.”

Laughter is indeed the best medicine

URGENT – UK Car Drivers!!

I fear this blog is too young, too small and time’s too short but if you can, help me out here – especially if you live in the UK and drive a car.
If you don’t do either then please nonetheless feed this on to others – there’s occasions when the Blair Government of the UK forgets it’s representing the people and the peoples wishes – be those people in rural areas, handicapped or single parents struggling to hold down a job because they want to be a good example to their children.

Alex Hamilton.

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DEADLINE FOR SUBMISSION 20 FEB 07

If you drive a car, please read -

Sarah Kennedy was talking about this proposed car tax scheme on Radio 2.
Apparently there is only one month left to register your objection to the
‘Pay As You Go’ road tax.

The petition is on the 10 Downing St website but they didn’t tell anybody
about it. Therefore at the time of Sarah’s comments only 250,000 people had
signed it  and 750,000 signatures are required for the government to at
least take any notice.

Once you’ve given your details (you don’t have to give your full address,
just house number and postcode will do), they will send you an email with a
link in it. Once you click on that link, you’ll have signed the petition.

The government’s proposal to introduce road pricing will mean you having to
purchase a tracking device for your car and paying a monthly bill to use
it. The tracking device will cost about £200 and in a recent study by the
BBC, the lowest monthly bill was £28 for a rural florist and £194 for a
delivery driver. A non working mother who used the car to take the kids to
school paid £86 in one month.On top of this massive increase in tax, you will be tracked.
Somebody will know where you are at all times. They will also know how fast
you have been going, so even if you accidentally creep over a speed limit
in time you can probably expect a Notice of Intended Prosecution with your
monthly bill.

If you are concerned about this Orwellian plan and want to stop the
constant bashing of the car driver, please sign the petition on No 10’s new
website (link below) and pass this on to as many people as possible.  Sign
up if you value your freedom and democratic rights -

http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/traveltax

How to BE Lucky

This is, I hope, going to be a very positive blog and therefore I thought I’d make the first post concretely of that ilk.

Enjoy!

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This ’secret’ about being lucky is something I learnt when I was tiny.
It was a secret given to me by my father.
It was many many years later that I realised other people didn’t know it (although it is slowing becoming part of main-stream teaching – some 30 years later)

I went to a dinner party a couple of years ago.
It was a big party in a grand old house and friends of a lifetime gathered.
The house had been sold and it was to be our final gathering in the wonderful old building.

As we sat for dinner, I overheard friends much further down the table discussing how lucky I was.
How I had the perfect partner, a lovely place to live; that I always got the job I wanted and did well in it.
That I seemed to travel and read and write and – I just always seemed to do what I wanted to do.
Lucky indeed.

I listened with a grin until it suddenly dawned on me that my friends spoke of luck like it was something intangible.
Something that one was born with – or not.
I broached this as a question and they answered that I was right – that luck was charisma, dignity, empathy, good timing, intelligence and so on they gave me the list.

I confess to being quite shocked and offered in response that I was lacking in several characteristics on their list!
That my father had taught me the secret of luck long ago and it was applicable in all walks of life.

By now the entire table had fallen into silence.
Doctors, lawyers, city dealers, sales executives had stopped eating and leaned in to listen.

So I told them how to be lucky.

Luck is made of two components.

The first is preparation – know your subject as best you can.
That does not mean to say that you must be a master of it – just know it as best you can.

The second component is opportunity.
Look for the opportunity to use your knowledge (your preparation)
And when that opportunity comes along, grab it!
If the opportunity doesn’t come along, then look to create it – what do you have to do?

When you combine preparation with opportunity your life will start to spin around in the most remarkable manner.

I grant it might not always be easy – although it’ll often look that way to others – but it will be worth it.

And yes, my friends are right – I am incredibly lucky – and these days, so are they!